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Have you ever felt paralysed by fear in your life? If you have and you know what it feels like to be fearful and stuck in a toxic workplace, or a destructive relationship, or an unhealthy environment you need to elevate your fear to question the reality you live in right now.
Why Me:
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Why Now:
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A four-year investigation by the ABC has uncovered shocking claims of abuse and torment in relation to NSW-based registered charity and religious group Christian Assemblies International (CAI).
Four Corners has revealed that self-styled religious guru Pastor Scott Williams was using his warped brand of evangelical Pentecostalism to run a clandestine homosexual sex ring while allegedly misusing vast amounts of member donations for personal use.
Courageous former members broke their silence and told of their torment living inside the group, which they said is not a Christian church but a horrendous cult run by one man.
The ex-members have remained in the shadows until now out of fear and shame. They detailed shocking acts of abuse ranging from spiritual abuse, financial abuse, verbal and physical abuse, and the sexual abuse of adult men.
They said bizarre sexual rituals were carried out in secret by Williams, who described himself as “The Anointed One” with the Lord’s authorisation to sidestep biblical commands against homosexuality and sexually train his male members into submission and obedience.
Four Corners approached Williams, whose full name is Anthony Scott Williams, and senior people in the church. All declined requests for interviews and refused to answer the program’s questions.
He made himself rich. He has groomed people, particularly men and boys … for his own pleasure. The Pentecostal church which he represents is just … a facade which he has built to build his own kingdom.Former member Gunther Frantz
The CAI is one of more than 60,000 registered charities in Australia and Four Corners can reveal it has been investigated by multiple authorities around the world.
But until now, the Australian Charities and Not for Profits Commission (ACNC) had no idea of the systemic abuse and allegations of corruption regarding the CAI, despite other authorities in Australia being alerted and informed of possibly illegal acts several years ago.
ACNC head Susan Pascoe has pledged to take immediate action.
“This is clearly one that we’ve been alerted to by the media, and in that instance we would certainly be investigating,” she said.
“If there was evidence that this was not acting in a charitable way or causing serious harm, then the charity can be deregistered.”
It is a pledge that should strike fear into the current leadership of the CAI, of which Williams is still a director.
Origins of Christian Assemblies International
The CAI headquarters may be in Coffs Harbour, New South Wales, but the organisation began in the small German town of Feldafing in the late 1970s.
Former members say they were recruited by Williams as teenagers and young adults, with many still at school. They say they were brainwashed into believing Williams was The Anointed One, filled with the Holy Spirit and gifted with the divine power of healing.
Williams was working in Feldafing as a pool attendant at a military school for young men.
Steve Forkin was converted when he was 17. He told Four Corners Williams paid special attention to young males.
“He was an Australian obviously and I’d never met anyone from Australia at that point in my life,” Mr Forkin said.
“He was very charismatic. He was very friendly. He was very outgoing, quite fun-loving, to be honest. Initially he presented himself as a missionary who’d come to Germany with a calling from God to start a church there.
“He’s very, very eloquent when it comes to knowledge of the Bible as such, and of course the flipside of that coin is that in Bavaria kids have no concept of the Bible and very little concept of religion per se, so really he could have told us anything and we would have believed it.”
Once introduced to Williams, usually through a church meeting or a weekend barbecue, Mr Forkin says Williams began to brainwash people.
“At that stage his message was that the world was going to come to an end very soon and that we didn’t have much time and we needed to convert as many people as possible before the return of Jesus,” he said.
His beautiful saying was always, ‘I’m gonna convert the German nation, this time to do a better deed instead of what Hitler did, a bad deed’.Former member Gunther Frantz
“Also his message was very much predominating around that Russia would invade Germany, a third world war would break out, and he brought up all sorts of scriptures from the Old Testament to prove his prophetic statements.”
Gunther Frantz, Williams’s first convert in Germany, says he was 12 when he began to be indoctrinated. He says Williams brainwashed him into doing almost anything.
“He had such power over people,” Mr Frantz said.
“His beautiful saying was always, ‘I’m gonna convert the German nation, this time to do a better deed instead of what Hitler did – a bad deed’.”
Williams’s core beliefs included a strict literal adherence to the Bible and a highly conservative lifestyle.
Upon baptism, members would often speak in tongues. As part of their membership, they were expected to donate 10 per cent of their gross income to the CAI in addition to many different offerings every year.
Members recall bizarre homosexual rituals
Four Corners spoke to more than a dozen men around the world who all claim they were pressured and led to perform sex acts against their will by Williams.
Warping biblical scripture to carry out perverse sexual acts, Williams began to hold regular men’s nights. During these nights, the males attending would be asked to undress and participate in mass massage sessions.
Former members told Four Corners that Williams would often be in the centre of the group receiving massages and caresses from a male member of the church.
Mr Frantz says he was often present and forced to take part by Williams.
“I think the biggest one I ever remember was 80 males in rooms covered only in naked bodies, and everybody giving massages,” he said.
“And Scott always had his personal private room with one or two at the end of any of those sessions. And then at two o’clock he sends everybody out of the room and out of everywhere else and he usually picks somebody to stay with him, to get more training.”
As the years went on and he was more sure that things were going his way or going the Lord’s way, he was more confident to express that we were a waste of space, useless heathen and would burn in hell and “the devil would rip our balls off” in a man’s case.Former member Klaus Tischer
Four Corners has been told that Williams would choose a man to stay back with him and spend the night with him, ordering them to surrender and submit to him for the Lord’s training.
He would then order them to perform sex acts on him during a personal naked massage and during naked showers.
The shocking ritual played out for more than two decades, with victims believing they were the only ones suffering at the hands of Williams.
Mr Frantz says he, like other men, never consented to the sexual acts and that it could happen to anyone.
“It’s possible. It happened to me. And I’m not the only one,” he said.
Mr Frantz says the number of possible victims is staggering.
“Firstly, he made himself rich, and secondly, he has groomed people, particularly men and boys, boys to start off and kids, for his own pleasure,” he said.
“The Pentecostal church which he represents is just … a facade which he has built to build his own kingdom.”
Underlying it all was the peculiar policy created and described by Williams as a “bundschaft”, a special relationship between two men.
Mr Forkin said the policy of the bundschaft was mandatory for all senior men in the CAI. Men had to have a male partner if they were to be trusted, and their bond was above that of husband and wife.
“Well, it’s basically a German word for the English word covenant,” Mr Forkin said.
“So in his, in CAI terminology, it’s a very special connection between two men, a very close friendship really, but it’s more than that. It’s like a lifelong commitment.
“So Scott would probably view that as a marriage without a marriage certificate, but in his eyes even if a man was married to another woman, the bundschaft friend was more appropriate and more valid to him than his own marriage.”
Williams amasses impressive property portfolio
Williams, now 70, is living with his wife Ree in a luxury apartment in the beachfront Pacific Towers complex in Coffs Harbour. It is one of many properties Williams purchased using money donated by church members who believed much of it was being used for charitable purposes.
Today, the CAI boasts an impressive multi-million-dollar property portfolio including Pitversie House and Douglas House, a hotel in Abernethy, Scotland.
All were renovated to luxurious standards by church members, who have told Four Corners they worked hundreds of hours updating the properties while Williams monitored their work and punished them for any mistakes or minor misdemeanours.
People came to our house and checked the fridge, checked the house, the clothes, it was clean; if not, my ex-wife would be severely punished.Former member Gunther Frantz
Katja Forkin was recruited into the Assembly as a teenager living in Germany. She says women and men were expected to work on the properties night and day, and if they did not they would be severely punished or excommunicated.
She says life in the Assembly got worse once Williams began to purchase more and more properties.
“It started to change once the Assembly owned properties in Scotland, because basically all we did from then is just work on the properties, renovating, looking after Scott and Ree more or less, and everything evolved around their lives,” she said.
“So the little spare time that we had sort of dwindled away more and more to the point that we started to have less and less connections to the outside.”
As members disconnected from the outside world, following Williams around the world and moving away from family and friends, they say their leader’s language and demeanour began to change.
Former members told Four Corners they were regularly denigrated and humiliated, losing their self-identity, confidence and sense of self.
Klaus Tishcer says it happened gradually.
“As the years went on and he was sort of more sure that things were going his way or going the Lord’s way, then he was more confident to express that we were a waste of space, useless heathen and would burn in hell and “the devil would rip our balls off” in a man’s case, or in females other words were used,” he said.
Widows, pensioners pressured to make donations
Mr Frantz says there was extreme pressure applied to members to donate regularly to the church, in addition to 10 per cent of their gross income.
Over the years, an estimated $20 million to $25 million flowed into the Assembly by way of donations or tithes. If you did not give enough you would be punished.
“You would be spoken to. There would be an investigation to find out why,” Mr Frantz said.
“And if you don’t have good enough reasons, then there could be hell, blood and fire, because you might not make it into heavenly places.”
Four Corners has counted that at one point there were up to 20 mandated donations per year and all sources of income were targeted. Senior officers were sent out to widows and pensioners to pressure them to hand over inheritances.
Church documents detail how members were to be targeted for financial contributions, with those on low incomes told to sell their property and belongings in order to give to Williams’s Assembly and to ensure he grants them salvation on judgment day.
But Assembly documents reveal something even more sinister. Four Corners has discovered members were also being fined by Williams for minor misdemeanours.
Mr Tischer worked in the finance department and was assigned to be a fine collector.
“Anybody who forgot to do their normal duties and their normal scripts and was found to be wanting that they had forgotten to do their tasks, could be fined,” he said.
“If somebody, say, did a tithe report and they didn’t send a report on time, they were fined, and I had to go and pick the tab up from all the people that were sent to me via email, ‘he is to be fined’ and so on and so forth.”
Mr Frantz says Williams introduced a disturbing culture of spying and monitoring in order to maintain control over members and their everyday lives.
Four Corners obtained church documentation listing what members were allowed to read, what movies they were allowed to watch and what music they were allowed to listen to.
“We had a black book where people were on the black list. If they don’t perform, then they have to be excommunicated or cut off,” Mr Frantz said.
“People who didn’t, for example, abide within the certain rules, for example, people came to our house and checked the fridge, checked the house, the clothes, it was clean; if not, my ex-wife would be severely punished.”
Women were ‘satanic beings not to be trusted’
Church documents show that Williams preached that women were Jezebels, swines, dogs and satanic beings, not to be trusted. Instead, they were to be punished.
In an extreme escalation, male members have told Four Corners that if they did not comply with Williams’s demands regarding how women were to be controlled and treated, he would order women be beaten.
Women were also routinely excommunicated and their children given to other church members to be raised temporarily.
Four Corners also obtained church documents written by Williams detailing how women and children were to be beaten with a rod if they misbehaved.
Mr Frantz says Williams directed him to beat his then wife for not being obedient enough, something he is deeply ashamed of today. Mr Frantz says his brainwashing, like many others, was so acute that he believed Williams had ultimate power and authority on Earth.
“Otherwise we would’ve been chucked out of the church,” he said. “Otherwise we wouldn’t have been together.
Women were second-rate citizens. They were there to have children and stand in the kitchen and make food.Former member Steve Forkin
“Otherwise he would’ve had the power to separate us, he would’ve had the power to eliminate our marriage, he would have had the power to excommunicate us and burn in hell.”
Sylvia Wagner, another convert originally from Germany, says she was terrified inside the Assembly.
“We were told he’s the overseer and that’s the highest instance before [God],” she said.
“He told us he will give account on judgment day on how well we have been doing and we ought not to offend him in any way because … he will give account on all his sheep.
“[If his account wasn’t positive] I lived under the impression that I will burn in hell. I was often told I would burn in hell. My impression was, if I had left the church and joined another church I would possibly burn in hell because it’s not allowed to leave this church.
“I was scared.”
Ms Forkin says women were treated and used as servants inside Williams’s organisation. Their role was to cook, clean, and produce children for the Assembly. Women were told what to wear, what to cook and how to behave.
“We were supposed to be at all times what they called humble and subdued and obey our husbands,” she said.
“So they were the ones that made the decisions over us, whether they were good at what they were doing or not; that didn’t come into it. And I suppose that was the same on them, was the pressure that they were to be seen as being in charge of us.”
Katja’s husband, Steve, says women were treated as less than men.
“Women were second-rate citizens,” he said. “They were there to have children and stand in the kitchen and make food.”
Using biblical scripture, Williams also preached that children were born evil and that the evil had to beaten out of them with an iron rod.
Four Corners spoke to many children who were born into the cult who are now adults. They detailed disturbing policies of punishment, including children being publically beaten for making any noise during a Sunday sermon or for moving off a mat laid out at the front of the Assembly.
‘We won’t stop until justice is done’
For all of the former members of the CAI who have broken their silence, they hope by going public and exposing their former leader that justice will finally be served.
Mr Frantz says CAI is not a Christian organisation, nor is it charitable, and it should not enjoy the tax-free status it currently does in Australia.
“It’s a cult,” he said. “I was abused and I didn’t understand it. For me I just thought maybe it’s me, it’s me? I just don’t understand why is this happening?
“I said to him, ‘I don’t understand why are you doing this’, and he says, ‘Well, the Bible says you’ve got to surrender, you’re my bundtling’, and all the rest of it.
“I remember the times where I begged, ‘Give me time’. He says, ‘You’re still not surrendering fully and I can’t use you and God is not gonna use you’.”
Mr Frantz now realises what happened to him was wrong. He is calling for more members of the CAI to come forward and expose the truth about the tormented regime run by Williams.
“I hope that many more people out there hear the message and have the guts to come out, because more and more people are coming out,” he said.
“Whatever happened to you, come out and tell them about it. Go to the police. Go public. I hope people have the guts.”
AUTHOR GUNTHER FRANTZ CELEBRATES NEW BOOK BEWARE OF FRIENDLY DANGER AT SIR ELTON JOHN’S OSCARS PARTY
POSTED ON APRIL 16, 2018
Los Angeles – April 16, 2018 – Australian Author Günther Frantz proudly celebrated the release of his book at the Celebrity Fast Track event in Los Angeles, California and was an honored guest at the A-List celebrity-studded Oscars viewing party hosted by Sir Elton John and David Furnish.
Günther Frantz’s autobiography
Beware of Friendly Danger: The Story of a Cult of Horror Survivor
Günther Frantz’s memoir describes the horrific treatment he endured at one man’s hands, and how he found the strength to survive. Let his story help you find a better future.
How does a child end up in a cult? In what reads like fiction, Frantz reveals how Pastor Anthony Scott Williams entrapped thousands of victims into the Pentecostal Church of Christ with his twisted version of religion.
A life of slavery: Frantz reveals how his manipulator instilled the fear of damnation into his flock, leaving them destitute while building their leader’s multi-million-dollar homes. How did one man have such a hold over thousands, stealing their incomes, family time and freedom? Frantz reveals all.
A life of abuse: From age 11, Scott groomed Frantz to be his‘special assistant’. Despite feeling sickened, Frantz was powerless to stop the molesting. Once married and with children, he thought the sexual abuse would end, but it did not.
About the Author:
Günther Frantz is a Public Keynote Speaker, Business and Personal breakthrough coach and Author based in Perth, Western Australia. A trained NLP practitioner and counselor, he helps dozens of clients turn their lives around and achieve greatness where there is only fear and devastation. Follow his incredible story on ABC’s Four Corners (televised initially on July 24, 2014) or read his astonishing autobiography.
Beware of friendly danger: Gnangara man chronicles sexual abuse suffered as part of church cult
May 3rd, 2018, 11:00AMWritten by Lucy Jarvis Wanneroo TimesNEWS Gunther Frantz. Picture: Martin Kennealey d481091
GUNTHER Frantz (52) spent half his life in a Christian cult where he suffered sexual abuse at the hands of a “self-appointed apostle”.
Mr Frantz recently published an autobiography, Beware of friendly danger, about the 26 years he spent within a Pentecostal church, which some of his family joined when he was a child in Germany.
He said he was 11 when he met “self-appointed apostle” Scott Williams, an Australian who went to Germany to start a church in the 1970s.
Now living in Gnangara, he told the Times he had become a full member of the church by the time he was 14.
He said Mr Williams started sexually abusing him when he was 12 by having showers and using saunas naked together at a swimming facility, then having sexual massages.
“He taught me to massage him from top to bottom, front and back,” Mr Frantz wrote in his book.
“Scott exposed his genitals and encouraged me to touch him.
“I remember feeling very uncomfortable and uncertain about the situation.
“I was indoctrinated and desensitised and believed his teachings. He was my pastor.”
As a young adult, Mr Frantz studied in New Zealand, then worked full time as a pastor in Coffs Harbour at a time when there were many Germans coming to Australia as missionaries in the mid-1990s.
The abuse continued for more than two decades until he realised his nephew was also being abused, then he and three other victims went to the police with their allegations.
“I always thought I was the only one,” he said. Following a lengthy investigation, Anthony ‘Scott’ Williams was charged with multiple counts of aggravated sexual assault, aggravated indecent assault and other offences.
The trial was due to start in 2012, but the judge granted a permanent stay of proceedings as Mr Williams was deemed medically unfit to stand trial. He died in 2015.
Mr Frantz said he always wanted to write a book, finally taking up a friend’s challenge to do it last December and a book launch date in Los Angeles was quickly set for March.
“I can share my story openly, freely because for me I know it will help others dealing with issues I dealt with,” he said.
“I don’t ever want anybody to go through what I went through.”
The father-of-five said people who were victims of abuse often had poor relationships with loved ones.
“The people I loved the most, I hurt the most,” he said.
“I was an emotional yo-yo.
“I was not nice to be around; I felt ashamed; I felt guilty; I hated myself.”
Mr Frantz said he had forgiven himself, and, while his marriage ended, he now had good relationships with his children and his current partner.
“I do not blame God or any religion or organisation for what happened to me,” he said.
“It was a perpetrator who had evil intentions.
“I still believe in God.”
The church, Christian Assemblies International, is still running, including in the eastern states, New Zealand, US, UK and South Africa.
It acknowledged the history of abuse on its website, and said that behaviour was not condoned.
Mr Frantz described his former church as a “closed brethren” that was difficult to leave.
“Everybody outside the organisation would be seen as a heathen,” he said.
“If you did not follow the doctrines, you were not included to be saved; you would burn in hell.”
With a diploma in counselling, Mr Frantz now works part time doing break-through sessions for people who have been mentally, physically or sexually abused.
“I wanted to give back to the community,” he said.
Dribble Blessings! Three books in 12 months has been an amazing achievement for me. I was diagnosed Dyslexic at the age of 4 and spent 26 years in a religious christian cult. I feel grateful for all the support around me and remember: You are not a victim. Your story isn’t over. No matter what you have been through, you’re still here! Take action to make the change now!
I finished writing my Autobiography One Year Ago! WOW – WHAT A JOURNEY IT HAS BEEN!!! Thanks to EVERYONE who has supported me, shared with me, and has been part of my journey – feeling GRATEFUL!!!
I had the privilege to write a chapter in this book, THINK BIG, with forward by Sir Richard Branson. There are additional 15 Thought Leaders in the book like Brian Tracey and Les Brown. I feel very grateful and thanks to Cydney O’Sullivan who made this possible!
I had the privilege to write a chapter in this book, Reaching for the Light, with forward by Former TV Star of Hey Dad, now author and humanitarian Sarah Monahan. There are additional 6 Warriors & 1 Redeemed Soul in the book I feel very grateful and thanks to Petros Galanoulis who made this possible!
Another dream come true – what a fantastic start to 2019!!!!???Looking forward to Bigger & Better future – TO YOUR SUCCESS!
“My Voice Will Go With You” (Well not mine, but Nev’s sure will)
On more than one occasion have I been asked by puzzled faces: “Why did you join Nev?”
True, his hair is messy. He doesn’t shave. He wears his cap backwards and features on live videos wearing a singlet.
Some background about me…
I was part of a religious organisation for 26 years where I preached from the pulpit that; “Hypnosis is of the devil!” So, how the heck would I join an association which embodies the exact belief I used to denounce?
I first met Nev Bentley during advanced studies of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Hypnosis Training in Sydney 2017. After watching Nev on several occasions utilising the wonderful modalities of Hypnosis and witnessing the amazing many ‘miracles’ of emotional and spiritual healings in clients, I deep down knew that we share the same belief about changing lives.
Watching Nev’s ability and passion to help clients getting rid of anxiety, quit smoking, loosing weight, gaining self-confidence, and assisting them to reach their desired goals has humbled me when being approached of becoming an associate partner of BENTLEY WELLNESS.
I have watched Nev over the last couple of years now and recently told him that he embodies the modalities of Hypnosis and brings them alive and this was the very first reason I connected with him back in Sydney. Looking at his track record of success, I realised, “this guys business is going to be successful regardless if I join him or not. I might as well join him!” Clean shaven face, or 5PM shadow. Hat backwards or messy hair. Singlet or a suit. It doesn’t matter; Nev is getting results and clients are drawn to him.
Nev and I share a similar background in faith and spirituality. Though, moving forward from those days, each one of us brings to the table a set of unique knowledge and experiences that alone we couldn’t master. My story is one of a strong family foundation that turned sour when it should have soared through a love of God and family.
I became part of a cult, a Christian religious sect that should have elevated my life and that of my family, but instead, I suffered twenty years of mental and sexual abuse. Looking back, perhaps this experience offered the lessons I needed to learn so that I could help others rid themselves of negative emotions, the destructive mindset that we all encounter in our lives at one time or another.
Let’s face it, everyone hopes they’ll avoid the worst life has to offer; accidents, illness, loss or violence etc. Unfortunately, few of us will get through life unscathed and the earlier we realise that we are not the only ones who have suffered the sooner we will be able to move on from our upsetting past.
As for me, emerging on the other side of the pain, I feel a much greater inner strength and have re-oriented my life towards more fulfilling goals. Actually the suffering that resulted from those horrible experiences was not an endpoint. Instead it acted more as a catalyst to change for the better in all aspects of life.
Probably it has sent me on a quest I would never have found otherwise. Given the right mindset and environment I was able to reflect on the trauma, the suffering and struggle as an opportunity to search for meaning in my life. Ultimately to become a better version of myself because growth begins with healing from the suffering experienced.
I do give credit to the transformational therapy of Time Line Therapy® turning my life around. Your “Time Line” is how you unconsciously store your memories or how you unconsciously know the difference between a memory from the past and a projection of the future. Behavioural change in an individual takes place at an unconscious level. We don’t change consciously. The Time Line Therapy® techniques allowed me to work at the unconscious level and I released the effects of past negative experiences and changed my misguided mind programming in minutes – rather than days, months or years.
Knowing that BENTLEY WELLNESS and I share the same belief about changing lives and possess the tools to bless other people and therefore I am humbled to share this journey together.
Aside from this, Nev and his family have been wonderful friends. We’ve shared laughs, meals, drinks and jokes. This will be a partnership and friendship for decades to come as we set forth to “heal the world.”
Success is a Mindset. Unstuck your Mindset towards Success!
I am not saying that “change your mindset and you’ll be successful.” If it were so easy, everyone would be a millionaire, happily in a loving relationship and be in perfect health. You need to go beyond that, to transform your past hurts into something magical you must be willing to take responsibility for your happiness and learn new skills.
I’ve learned to turn my negative emotions around, which I want to share with you. As a life coach I teach you a ‘lifestyle’ – just like physical exercise or eating healthy. The mind requires on-going maintenance. An example of ongoing mind-maintenance is inner learning.
Everyone knows, we only have a limited number of years on this planet called earth, and there is no second chance. No one wants a life that’s full of regrets. My aim is to inspire you to make the most of your life while you still have the chance, because I lost many years of mine.
Have you ever felt like – I need to change my life?
Have you ever been thought of as crazy because you wanted to follow your dreams or start a business? Have you ever asked yourself if today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today? Or you had a moment when you were feeling alone and empty, but you don’t want to be that way, but you just don’t know how to change it… Have you ever felt like this? Or you just wanted to become a better version of you. I have, but I didn’t have a clue how to change it but always thought there must be something more to life!
If you haven’t found it – keep looking and don’t settle until you found it.
If you ever think to yourself I need to change my life then you just may want to have a look at what I am doing. Now I am not saying that it is for you because I don’t know anything about you. What I am saying is take a look at what I have to offer and if it resonates with you – take action.
Let’s face it, everyone hopes they’ll avoid the worst life has to offer; accidents, illness, loss or violence etc. Unfortunately, few of us will get through life unscathed and the earlier we realise that we are not the only ones who have suffered the sooner we will be able to move on from our upsetting past.
As for me, emerging on the other side of the pain, I now feel a much greater inner strength and have re-oriented my live towards more fulfilling goals. Actually the suffering that resulted from those horrible experiences was not an endpoint. Instead it acted more as a catalyst to change for the better, in all aspects of my life.
Probably it has sent me on a quest I would never have found otherwise. Given the right mindset and environment I was able to reflect on the trauma, the suffering and struggle as an opportunity to search for meaning in my life. Ultimately to become a better version of myself because growth begins with healing from the suffering experienced.
Steve Maraboli sums it up well: “You are not a victim. Your story isn’t over. No matter what you have been through, you’re still here. Everyone who ever bet against you was wrong. You have a history of victory.” I do feel I go from victory to victory even though sometimes success doesn’t come easy but I refuse to give up until I reach my desired result.
A life of regret is no life at all and I can honestly say I do not have any regrets in my life. Sure, we all have regrets for things we’ve done, mistakes made and opportunities lost. But I make a conscious decision every day of my life to minimise those moments of remorsefulness and lead a happier more fulfilling life than ever.
So, how confident are you in your ability to make the best use of time you have left? It is time to follow our own rules and decide on whose opinion you want to listen to. Decide not to let other opinions dictate your life. If people disrespect us, it is time to speak up. Decide to get rid of any toxic relationships we are hanging on to. Don’t be a sheep – go solo if we must.
Your life and time are precious so make the most of each day. Take care of your needs first. Be passionate in everything you do. Do not worry about the things you can’t control and take charge of the things you can control.
